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Burnout = High Responsibility + Low Power
The formula for burnout has now played out in our global response to COVID-19. So if you are feeling burned out right now, I’m here to tell you that it makes sense and you’re not alone! Here are a few things you can do about it.
Surviving the Dating Scene as a Trauma Survivor
The ways in which trauma survivors attempt to find safety in the context of a new relationship can cause one of two problems in the dating scene - over-sharing or under-sharing.
How Trauma and Self-Betrayal are Connected
Have you noticed in yourself a tendency to minimize your own needs? To not cause a fuss and keep the peace at all costs? These may be reflections of one of codependency’s main symptoms: self-betrayal.
Effectively Responding to Guilt and Shame
Guilt and shame are social emotions that involve an understanding of the impact our actions have on others.
Learned Helplessness: Lack of Control and What to Do About It
The Coronavirus and our global response to it have taught us many things but there is a theme underlying it all - we are not in control.
Leaning Into Grief in a Time of Collective Loss
I share the following facts on grief with the hope that they help you make sense of this season and land on your feet when this chaos eventually subsides.
The Key to Resolving Conflict: Getting to Know Your Inner Child
Your inner child is your truest self, the one that is aware of your early wounds, relational foundation, survival instincts, demeanor, and natural inclinations; and your inner child also carries the emotional burden of all your past trauma.
A Trauma-Informed Response to COVID-19
We are witnessing a global trauma response. Be kind to one another in this.
Love in the Time of COVID-19 (Coronavirus)
It’s here. We can’t get away from it in the news media. Our schools. Our workplaces. Our churches and places of worship. Our gyms and workout studios. March Madness is canceled. NBA and NHL have hit the pause button. MLB is pushing back opening day. Broadway shows and tours are canceled. Coachella and Stagecoach have been postponed. Travel plans are being rearranged. A lot of us have been told to work from home. And the freeways are wide open during rush hour. Are you feeling overwhelmed yet? Because I certainly am. And that is hard to admit that because my job necessitates that I don’t get overwhelmed. That I carry the anxious burdens of others without getting crushed beneath the weight. This task has become exceptionally hard given the collective anxiety our world is experiencing right now.
Inviting Your Anxiety Over for a Cup of Coffee
Anxiety is your friend, and when it is triggered it energizes you and empowers you to take committed, value-based action to avoid threats and move toward security.
Getting Out of Your Own Way: How to Identify and Overcome Self-Sabotage
We all have goals we want to achieve, standards we want to live by, and better versions of ourselves that we want to embody - so why do we have such a hard time being and doing those things?
A 2020 Reading List from Your Therapist
The 10 Books You Should Read in 2020 to Develop Self-Awareness and Support Your Mental Health
Combatting the Cycle of Loneliness
Recent research has revealed that more than one quarter of the population feels lonely. And this is often a topic of conversation in my office. One of the things I have been chatting with clients a lot about these past few weeks is the feeling of loneliness. Loneliness can often feel like a helpless cycle entirely dependent on the actions of others. But in reality, there are practices you can adopt that can actually disrupt the cycle of loneliness and invite the presence of others.
6 New Year's Intentions that Don't Involve Another Year of Broken Resolutions
6 ways you can ditch the resolutions and embrace intentions this New Year.
Attachment Style and How it Affects Growth and Healing
The two main dimensions on which a person can be insecurely attached are characterized by attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. Attachment anxiety is to the degree to which one is worried that their attachment figure will be unsupportive in times of distress and need. Attachment avoidance is the degree to which one minimizes their dependency needs and distances from potentially supportive interpersonal relationships when faced with stressors.
Got the Holiday Blues? These Winter Self-care Tips can Help
In addition to the expectations and stress of holiday planning, travel, and celebrations, the winter months can be accompanied by a case of the blues, increased anxiety, or relational stress. It's important to take care of yourself through this season and the tips below will help you to do so!
5 Things You Need to Know Before Beginning Trauma Therapy
Beginning trauma therapy can be overwhelming and intimidating. In fact, those who have experienced trauma may have the most difficult time beginning therapy because their experiences have been so confusing and overwhelming. Keep these things in mind before beginning the journey of overcoming trauma.